What if you don’t agree? What if deep down you have a different opinion, a different idea, a different need or ambition?
Why is it so hard to go against the ones we love?
Why do we swallow our truth and shrink back so quickly?
Why do we keep showing up only to be shut down?
We thrive on acceptance so deeply, we can not disconnect from the fear of rejection long enough to become OK with disapproval.
Our primitive need to be a part of the tribe, to be accepted and held safe within the fold, is still intrinsic for our survival. While the physical threat of being outcast is long gone, the emotional wounds are still apparent.
It is simply unfathomable for most, to entertain the reality of being cast aside by those they love. Therefore the only safe option that remains, is to simply toe the line, play safe, and become a submissive bystander. Don’t rock the boat, don’t hurt anyone, don’t cause a ripple.
What if you’ve grown tired of being the bystander?
What if you need to be heard?
What if you can’t swallow your truth anymore?
What if the heart that is continually being hurt is your own?
𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙠 𝙪𝙥, 𝙗𝙚 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙙 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙖𝙘𝙘𝙚𝙥𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙢𝙖𝙮 𝙬𝙚𝙡𝙡 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙫𝙚?
For me, I simply had to learn to like myself enough that someone else’s dislike or disappointment didn’t destroy me. It has taken YEARS to try and master this. As a people-pleaser rejection is never easy.
I had to recognise the shadows that danced within my soul. Trying to avoid what I was most afraid of invited a disproportionate response in which I either reacted defensively or completely retreated.
I had to trust!! I had to trust I was enough. I had to trust I was entitled to my own thoughts, my own choices, my own opinions. I had to trust that the ones I loved, loved me enough to accept my truth as mine and if not, return to my 1st point!!
I had to commit to allowing every person I loved the freedom to live their truth regardless of how this impacted me. If I need the freedom to be ME, I had to offer them this same grace.
You are here to experience the freedom of your truth. You are enough to be loved regardless of how much others approve of your life perspectives. You are enough to make the choice. You are enough to make the change.
So often people become trapped in their stories, their mind searching for the evidence to prove their greatest fears correct. We are human magnets, are sub-conscious programming ensures that our experiences match our expectations.
Without any awareness of our inner dialogue, the cycle of attracting what we do not want becomes lost in the white noise of life. For the most part, people are living in a constant state of internal struggle, chained by their stories and without any awareness of where the key to the lock resides.
But it is within us. Each and every one of us. The key to our internal struggle will always be found within us. The only way to truly unlock your infinite potential and create the future you desire is to set yourself free from the past.
You have to make friends with the sub-conscious battlefield. The part of your mind that likes to keep your truth hidden, the area that has distorted meaning about who you are and what your path is.
The only way out is through. The only way through is within.